Monday, February 18, 2008
Happy 5 Months!
That's right, the little one turned 5 months old! Check out some of this month's photos!
Thursday, February 14, 2008
Happy Valentine's Day!
Kacey wanted to wish everyone a happy day! This year she's definitely her mommy and daddy's favorite valentine! Kacey made valentines (with some help from mommy) and gave them to all of her friends in her Next Steps group...although she did try to eat some of them first, the other babies didn't seem to mind.
Will you be my valentine? Who could say no to this face?
Will you be my valentine? Who could say no to this face?
Wednesday, February 13, 2008
All Sorts of Updates
I know, I know...it's been a while. Apparently, unlike Timmy, my New Year's resolution wasn't to post 3 times a week (although maybe it should have been). I do have a ton of Kacey updates though to get out of the way and then you can expect me to post much more often than I have been.
Ferber:
Well, I have to say that, all in all, Ferber has been a huge success for us. Kacey now falls asleep and stays asleep in her crib throughout the night. By night 2 she was falling asleep with NO crying. It's really been amazing and I'm so proud that we've given her the skills to put herself to sleep. Lately teething has caused a few tougher nights and she wakes up occasionally to have us replace her pacifier, but for now we're okay with that. Hopefully that will get better on its own, but if it doesn't, we always have Ferber in our back pockets. At least the swaddle will be gone soon. We're down to not swaddling for most naps and only swaddling one arm in during the night.
Weight Check:
We met with Kacey's temporary pediatrician, Dr. Feins, at 4 months and 3 weeks. She weighed in a whopping 12 lbs 5 oz. For those of you keeping track, our little Kacey gained as much weight in the last 3 weeks as she did between her 2 and 4 months appointments. Needless to say, the pediatrician was thrilled, as were Timmy and I. It's such relief to see her thriving so well. We did mention to Dr. Feins that we had been noticing Kacey turning her right hand when reaching for things. The doctor referred to it as "pronation". You might notice it in one of her 4 month old pictures posted in a previous post. It seems to just be a positional muscle preference that she'll grow out of, but, as a precaution, we had x-rays taken (which looked perfectly normal although Kacey was not happy about having them done) and we're meeting with a physical therapist and a hand specialist at Children's Hospital. We're not overly concerned, but we'll let you know how that turns out.
Other Fun Stuff:
Ferber:
Well, I have to say that, all in all, Ferber has been a huge success for us. Kacey now falls asleep and stays asleep in her crib throughout the night. By night 2 she was falling asleep with NO crying. It's really been amazing and I'm so proud that we've given her the skills to put herself to sleep. Lately teething has caused a few tougher nights and she wakes up occasionally to have us replace her pacifier, but for now we're okay with that. Hopefully that will get better on its own, but if it doesn't, we always have Ferber in our back pockets. At least the swaddle will be gone soon. We're down to not swaddling for most naps and only swaddling one arm in during the night.
Weight Check:
We met with Kacey's temporary pediatrician, Dr. Feins, at 4 months and 3 weeks. She weighed in a whopping 12 lbs 5 oz. For those of you keeping track, our little Kacey gained as much weight in the last 3 weeks as she did between her 2 and 4 months appointments. Needless to say, the pediatrician was thrilled, as were Timmy and I. It's such relief to see her thriving so well. We did mention to Dr. Feins that we had been noticing Kacey turning her right hand when reaching for things. The doctor referred to it as "pronation". You might notice it in one of her 4 month old pictures posted in a previous post. It seems to just be a positional muscle preference that she'll grow out of, but, as a precaution, we had x-rays taken (which looked perfectly normal although Kacey was not happy about having them done) and we're meeting with a physical therapist and a hand specialist at Children's Hospital. We're not overly concerned, but we'll let you know how that turns out.
Other Fun Stuff:
We took Kacey on her first trip to the Boston Children's Museum with some of her friends from my mommy and baby group. She had a great time with all of her little buddies and she loved having her daddy take her all over the place. There's not a lot for an infant to do, but it didn't take long before all the little ones seemed pretty tuckered out. Here's a picture of her enjoying the "water bed" in the infant room.
Kacey also spent some time cheering on her Patriots in the Super Bowl, but we all know how that turned out. Shh...don't tell Kacey, she fell asleep before the game ended and we still haven't been able to break the news to her.
She also got her first pair of New Balances, which was very exciting for both her and her daddy. She can't wait to get out there with him on the road. We think she rocks them!
Okay, well, that's all the updates for tonight as I should be heading to bed now. I'll post again tomorrow with more Parcell family updates. Thanks for reading!
Kacey also spent some time cheering on her Patriots in the Super Bowl, but we all know how that turned out. Shh...don't tell Kacey, she fell asleep before the game ended and we still haven't been able to break the news to her.
She also got her first pair of New Balances, which was very exciting for both her and her daddy. She can't wait to get out there with him on the road. We think she rocks them!
Okay, well, that's all the updates for tonight as I should be heading to bed now. I'll post again tomorrow with more Parcell family updates. Thanks for reading!Monday, February 4, 2008
Our Ferber Diary Part II- Kacey Meets Dr. Ferber
On Friday night, our process of ferberizing Kacey began. I was nervous to say the least. The idea that I just have to listen to Kacey cry and not hold her in my arms makes me sick to my stomach. I've heard that on the first night, some babies cry for hours. The mere thought makes my heart ache. I questioned if we were making the right choice for our daughter, but I continued to remind myself that on several occasions she had cried for period of time in the car when one of us was driving and were unable to do anything to console her at the time. I had to remind myself that we were doing this for all of us.
So, we gave her a bath and put her in her pajamas. Then Timmy took her into her nursery, turned the lights off except for her night light, swaddled her and gave her a bottle while listening to some calming lullabies. Then he laid her down, said goodnight and the waiting began. By the time he stepped out of the room, the crying had begun. We talked about what we were going to have for dinner and before I knew it, the first 3 minutes had passed. I went in, gave her her pacifier, soothed her by rubbing her belly and telling her we loved her and it was time for sleep now. Then I walked out. The crying continued. The next 5 minutes passed a bit more slowly as her crying showed no end in sight. After that passed, Tim went in and repeated what I had done previously and left her nursery. And the crying continued. This was getting harder. I had no idea how long it was going to last and now I had to wait 10 long minutes to go and soothe her again. Was i going to be able to do this? As the minutes ticked away, I tried to do what I could not to watch the clock, but it was hard. 7 minutes passed, then 8, then 9 and then something happened.
The crying stopped.
Just as I was getting ready to go in and comfort her again (while trying not to curse the evil Dr. Ferber under my breath), she fell asleep. 17 minuted has passed since Tim first laid her down. I was in awe. She was asleep in her crib and she did it on her own. While listening to her cry wasn't the easiest thing in the world, the intervals made it easier and it took MUCH less time for her to fall asleep then I had anticipated. It's only 8:45.
9:17- She's awake again. The crying starts.
9:20- Console and comfort.
9:21- Asleep.
That time it only took 4 minutes. She's getting better at this already!
3:14- Awake and crying (Yep, that's 6 hours without a peep!)
3:17- Console and comfort.
3:18- Asleep.
4 minutes again. Unbelievable...
6:08- Awake, but hungry.
6:30- Fed and back in her crib fed and awake.
6:31- Asleep.
She slept for another hour before waking up for the day. And this is the best part, she was full of smiles and seemed so well rested. It was like she knew how proud we were of her and she was proud of herself too. I'm in love and his name is Richard Ferber. Next up: Our Ferber Diary- Night 2: Can the magic continue? Stay tuned...
So, we gave her a bath and put her in her pajamas. Then Timmy took her into her nursery, turned the lights off except for her night light, swaddled her and gave her a bottle while listening to some calming lullabies. Then he laid her down, said goodnight and the waiting began. By the time he stepped out of the room, the crying had begun. We talked about what we were going to have for dinner and before I knew it, the first 3 minutes had passed. I went in, gave her her pacifier, soothed her by rubbing her belly and telling her we loved her and it was time for sleep now. Then I walked out. The crying continued. The next 5 minutes passed a bit more slowly as her crying showed no end in sight. After that passed, Tim went in and repeated what I had done previously and left her nursery. And the crying continued. This was getting harder. I had no idea how long it was going to last and now I had to wait 10 long minutes to go and soothe her again. Was i going to be able to do this? As the minutes ticked away, I tried to do what I could not to watch the clock, but it was hard. 7 minutes passed, then 8, then 9 and then something happened.
The crying stopped.
Just as I was getting ready to go in and comfort her again (while trying not to curse the evil Dr. Ferber under my breath), she fell asleep. 17 minuted has passed since Tim first laid her down. I was in awe. She was asleep in her crib and she did it on her own. While listening to her cry wasn't the easiest thing in the world, the intervals made it easier and it took MUCH less time for her to fall asleep then I had anticipated. It's only 8:45.
9:17- She's awake again. The crying starts.
9:20- Console and comfort.
9:21- Asleep.
That time it only took 4 minutes. She's getting better at this already!
3:14- Awake and crying (Yep, that's 6 hours without a peep!)
3:17- Console and comfort.
3:18- Asleep.
4 minutes again. Unbelievable...
6:08- Awake, but hungry.
6:30- Fed and back in her crib fed and awake.
6:31- Asleep.
She slept for another hour before waking up for the day. And this is the best part, she was full of smiles and seemed so well rested. It was like she knew how proud we were of her and she was proud of herself too. I'm in love and his name is Richard Ferber. Next up: Our Ferber Diary- Night 2: Can the magic continue? Stay tuned...
Friday, February 1, 2008
Our Ferber Diary Part I- Who is this Ferber guy and what can he do for me?
Recently we decided that it was officially time for Kacey to start sleeping in her own room in her crib. While we didn't mind having her in our room, she had seriously outgrown her bassinet and Timmy really didn't think having her sleep in her car seat every night was the best solution (can you believe him? :-)
Well, I've always described Kacey as a great sleeper since she's been sleeping through the night since before she was 6 weeks old. She has always needed to be rocked to sleep though, either in our arms or pushed back and forth in her stroller. Sometimes this process could take more than an hour. And not only was this true for nighttime, but daytime naps as well. We spent a lot of time on this, but because she slept so well once we could get her to sleep, we didn't have too much to complain about.
For the past week, we've been trying to get her to sleep in her crib and have her continue to sleep through the night there. If we could get her into a deep sleep by rocking her in our arms, we could put her down and she could go several hours (3-4) before waking up and screaming inconsolably. If we tried to put her down too early, this screaming would start as soon as she hit the crib. The only solution was to just pick her up and bring her into bed with us. All of a sudden, at 4 months old, we were co-sleeping again. All in all, the situation wasn't working.
We made the somewhat controversial and difficult decision to "ferberize" Kacey. Ferberizing is a sleep training method developed by Dr. Richard Ferber, Director of Pediatric Sleep Disorders at Children's Hospital here in Boston. I purchased and began reading Dr. Ferber's book Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems and was amazed to find that it could have been written about our little Kacey and her sleep habits. We were certainly desperate to find a way to get her to sleep happily in her crib at night and we just were not able to figure out how to do it on our own. And here came Dr. Ferber with simple ideas to solve our problems. Could this by too good to be true?
Essentially, Dr. Ferber emphasizes a "cry and console" or "progressive waiting" mentality in order to break the sleep associations that are causing your child's sleep problems. The goal is not to have your baby cry until they fall asleep from pure exhaustion (which I believe is cruel and unnecessary) , but rather to teach them to fall asleep under the same circumstances in which they will wake up to during the night. If your baby is used to being rocked to sleep in your arms (as Kacey was), waking up in a strange place like a crib without being held can be a jarring and scary experience, causing inconsolable crying until they are "reunited" with the circumstances under which they fell asleep. Dr. Ferber's method can also be used to break the habit of multiple night feedings, needing a pacifier to sleep, or co-sleeping, to name a few.
Parents are to begin with a happy bedtime routine centered in the room where the child will be sleeping for the night. Then you lay them down in their crib drowsy, but awake, say goodnight, rub their belly (etc) and leave the room. Since this will be a departure from what they are used to, they will undoubtedly begin crying for you to return and pick them up. At increasing intervals of time, you are to enter the baby's room, reassure them that all will be fine, rub their belly, tell them you love them, and leave within 1 or 2 minutes while they are still awake. On the first night of ferberizing, you go in and check on the baby 3 minutes after they first start crying, 5 minutes after that if the crying has continued, and then every 10 minutes your baby cries until they fall asleep.
It's important, as in our case, not to pick up the baby, but only soothe them while they lay in the crib because you don't want to teach them that if they cry for a certain amount of time, you will come in and pick them up. Then you will be doing more harm than good. Ferber lays out a 7 night plan where you increase the length of your "response time" each night (e.g. On night 2, the intervals change to 5, 10, and 12 minutes and on night 7, they are 20, 25 and 30 minutes). Get the gist? Stay tuned for Part II: Kacey Meets Dr. Ferber...
Well, I've always described Kacey as a great sleeper since she's been sleeping through the night since before she was 6 weeks old. She has always needed to be rocked to sleep though, either in our arms or pushed back and forth in her stroller. Sometimes this process could take more than an hour. And not only was this true for nighttime, but daytime naps as well. We spent a lot of time on this, but because she slept so well once we could get her to sleep, we didn't have too much to complain about.
For the past week, we've been trying to get her to sleep in her crib and have her continue to sleep through the night there. If we could get her into a deep sleep by rocking her in our arms, we could put her down and she could go several hours (3-4) before waking up and screaming inconsolably. If we tried to put her down too early, this screaming would start as soon as she hit the crib. The only solution was to just pick her up and bring her into bed with us. All of a sudden, at 4 months old, we were co-sleeping again. All in all, the situation wasn't working.
We made the somewhat controversial and difficult decision to "ferberize" Kacey. Ferberizing is a sleep training method developed by Dr. Richard Ferber, Director of Pediatric Sleep Disorders at Children's Hospital here in Boston. I purchased and began reading Dr. Ferber's book Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems and was amazed to find that it could have been written about our little Kacey and her sleep habits. We were certainly desperate to find a way to get her to sleep happily in her crib at night and we just were not able to figure out how to do it on our own. And here came Dr. Ferber with simple ideas to solve our problems. Could this by too good to be true?
Essentially, Dr. Ferber emphasizes a "cry and console" or "progressive waiting" mentality in order to break the sleep associations that are causing your child's sleep problems. The goal is not to have your baby cry until they fall asleep from pure exhaustion (which I believe is cruel and unnecessary) , but rather to teach them to fall asleep under the same circumstances in which they will wake up to during the night. If your baby is used to being rocked to sleep in your arms (as Kacey was), waking up in a strange place like a crib without being held can be a jarring and scary experience, causing inconsolable crying until they are "reunited" with the circumstances under which they fell asleep. Dr. Ferber's method can also be used to break the habit of multiple night feedings, needing a pacifier to sleep, or co-sleeping, to name a few.
Parents are to begin with a happy bedtime routine centered in the room where the child will be sleeping for the night. Then you lay them down in their crib drowsy, but awake, say goodnight, rub their belly (etc) and leave the room. Since this will be a departure from what they are used to, they will undoubtedly begin crying for you to return and pick them up. At increasing intervals of time, you are to enter the baby's room, reassure them that all will be fine, rub their belly, tell them you love them, and leave within 1 or 2 minutes while they are still awake. On the first night of ferberizing, you go in and check on the baby 3 minutes after they first start crying, 5 minutes after that if the crying has continued, and then every 10 minutes your baby cries until they fall asleep.
It's important, as in our case, not to pick up the baby, but only soothe them while they lay in the crib because you don't want to teach them that if they cry for a certain amount of time, you will come in and pick them up. Then you will be doing more harm than good. Ferber lays out a 7 night plan where you increase the length of your "response time" each night (e.g. On night 2, the intervals change to 5, 10, and 12 minutes and on night 7, they are 20, 25 and 30 minutes). Get the gist? Stay tuned for Part II: Kacey Meets Dr. Ferber...
Packing on the Pounds
As I mentioned in my last post, Kacey's weight and length weren't charting well at her 4 month pediatrician appointment. She's a very tall, very slim baby and the doc wanted to make sure that she was getting a sufficient amount of calories everyday to sustain how quickly she is growing in height. Click here to find out more about growth charts.
In order to help her get these extra calories she needs, we add a teaspoon of powdered formula in with each 3 ounces of breast milk she receives while I am at work. For reference, she averages about 4x 4 oz bottles on those days. I'm only really able to pump enough to give her 3 bottles so that 4th bottle has become all formula. While the transition was difficult at first, we found a formula that works well in Kacey's system (Nestle Goodstart Supreme) and she seems to be doing just great with it.
We go back to the pediatrician next week for an official weight check-in, but I've been concerned and not wanting to wait so I've taken the opportunity to weigh her the last two weeks on the baby scale at Isis Maternity after my mommy/baby group. Last Friday (1 week post 4 month appointment), her weight had jumped to 11 lbs 11 oz. I was thrilled. That's a 1/4 lb. in 1 week. Well, 1 week later, she's a whopping 12 lbs 4 oz.! That's almost 1 lb. in 2 weeks! Pretty amazing for a girl that only gained 3 pounds in the first 4 months of life. We're really excited about how she's thriving!
While it was hard for me to originally get over my "breast feeding snobiness" and come to terms with her having formula, seeing how well she's doing makes me realize that nothing matters except her happiness and her health. It's all about her and that's a great thing. We'll let you know what the pediatrician says after her appointment on Friday, February 8th! I almost can't wait to show off our mighty little Kacey!
In order to help her get these extra calories she needs, we add a teaspoon of powdered formula in with each 3 ounces of breast milk she receives while I am at work. For reference, she averages about 4x 4 oz bottles on those days. I'm only really able to pump enough to give her 3 bottles so that 4th bottle has become all formula. While the transition was difficult at first, we found a formula that works well in Kacey's system (Nestle Goodstart Supreme) and she seems to be doing just great with it.
We go back to the pediatrician next week for an official weight check-in, but I've been concerned and not wanting to wait so I've taken the opportunity to weigh her the last two weeks on the baby scale at Isis Maternity after my mommy/baby group. Last Friday (1 week post 4 month appointment), her weight had jumped to 11 lbs 11 oz. I was thrilled. That's a 1/4 lb. in 1 week. Well, 1 week later, she's a whopping 12 lbs 4 oz.! That's almost 1 lb. in 2 weeks! Pretty amazing for a girl that only gained 3 pounds in the first 4 months of life. We're really excited about how she's thriving!
While it was hard for me to originally get over my "breast feeding snobiness" and come to terms with her having formula, seeing how well she's doing makes me realize that nothing matters except her happiness and her health. It's all about her and that's a great thing. We'll let you know what the pediatrician says after her appointment on Friday, February 8th! I almost can't wait to show off our mighty little Kacey!
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